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7 habits to remain calm in all circumstances



Most of us do not feel a sense of peace, calm, serenity, throughout our day because we are confronted with constant anxiety, a source of stress. I’m listing below some quick tips to help you create a feeling of calm much more easily that I read from Leo Babauta in his book "Zen Habits" These tips are habits rather than just a one-time change in your surroundings or in your work environment. Changing to a better environment is important, but most of the time you do not have control over events that happen to you, and you certainly can not control how others act around you. The important thing you can control, however, is how you choose to react to your environment. When confronted with a given event, you have the choice to react in a stressful way with, for example, anxiety or anger, or you can also choose to remain calm and serene. Nowadays, those who are more successful in their lives, are those who manage to maintain a greater sense of peace, calm, serenity, throughout their day. So, what are those tips? 1 - Have a "calm" morning ritual: Most people rush to the various stressful tasks of their day, as soon as they wake up. Do not behave like everyone else: get up a little early and start your day with a little meditation or even a few stretches. Do not hesitate to write, to think about your actions of the day, before leaving the train of the day invading you. It's up to you to find the morning activity that's right for you to start your day in peace and get the most out of it. 2 - Become aware of your reaction to unforeseen events in your everyday life: When something stressful happens, how do you most often react? Some people jump right into action. Others get angry, or feel overwhelmed. Others begin to feel sorry for themselves, hoping that the reality be different. What is your usual reaction? Observe yourself and be conscious of how you react, as it is an important habit that may have to be changed into a more effective one ! 3 - Do not take things too much at heart: Most of the time, we have a habit of taking things very seriously. If someone does something we do not like, we often tend to interpret it as a personal affront. Our children do not clean their rooms? They challenge us! Our spouse does not show us affection today? He / she does not care as much about us as he / she should! Some people behave brutally at work? How can they treat us this way? I'm sure many of you even think that the universe is personally against them. However, the truth is that it's nothing personal - it's just your conscious choice to interpret the reaction of others while they often act the best they can. It is by consciously deciding not to interpret the events as a personal affront, but to rather consider them as a non-personal external event (such as a falling leaf, a flying bird) that you will manage to react without stress. 4 - Force yourself to be grateful more often: More and more people are talking about gratitude ... but how many of us are willing to feel this emotion so important to our well being in everyday events? Applications and files are piling up at work, our boss is angry, our colleagues are rude, our children behave badly, or we feel unloved ... All this causes anger and anxiety. Can we be grateful? Forget to complain and try to always find a reason to be grateful, whatever happens. Smile more often. This inflexible habit can change your life! 5 - Create constructive habits in the face of stress: Very often, when we are confronted with stress, we adopt unhealthy behaviors such as anger, procrastination, we eat junk food, have excessive consumption of alcohol or drugs, we start to buy more than necessary, we waste our time on the net or in front of the television, on our phone, we put everything back in the morning, and so on. Instead, we need to adopt healthy responses to deal with the stress that will inevitably come. Therefore, when you notice that you are stressed, look at how you cope with it, then replace your unhealthy reactions with smarter actions that will help you feel better. You can, for example, do some exercise to eliminate tension, practice yoga, meditate, massage your own neck and shoulders, drink a little water, talk to someone you love .... 6 - Rediscover monotask in a multi-tasking world: Look around, virtually everyone performs several tasks at the same time: People drive while on the phone, write emails and text while walking, getting on the train or on the bus. They watch TV while eating, they plan their day while being distracted by something else .... All of this is a great way to cause a level of anxiety that affects everything we do, because we are always worried and think we should do more, etc. And if, on the contrary, we were content to do only one thing at a time? If we learned to trust that we should not do anything else at the same time? It takes a bit of practice because we have to relearn how to focus only on the task we are doing: just eat, just wash our bowl, just walk, just talk to someone and give them all their attention. Read one book at a time, write one letter or email at a time. You will experience a sense of peace and wholeness by doing only one thing at a time and letting go of everything else. 7 - Reduce the noise: Our lives are full of all kinds of noises, not just sound! Think also about the visual clutter, the notifications, the messages of all kinds of social media, the news, all the things we have to read, the mess that can be around us. To tell the truth, none of this is necessary. Limit all these things to create a little space, a little calm, in your life. So, which tip are you going to apply first ? With all my support ! Antoine


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